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Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. BUT FIRST! Elle Chase and Sandra discuss the sexy of Magic Mike XXL, Scandal, Sense8,  TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more! 

Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more! 

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

MAGIC MIKE! Continuing last week's stripper theme, Sandra and webcomic artist Erika Moen interview male strippers from Portland's new male strip club, Stag. On stage at Portland's Dante's, hilarity ensues. 

LAP DANCES! Recorded live at Portland's Dante's, it's a packed show. FIRST, enjoy stand-up comedy by Matt Kirshen. THEN comedian Kira Soltanovich joins for a rousing debate about whether strippers are like comedians. THEN, artist, cartoonist and guest co-host Erika Moen (OJST) and Sandra share their very different fascinations with strip clubs. FINALLY, lady strippers Hazel and The Baroness teach Erika and Sandra how to work in a strip club, give a lap dance and as a customer, how to behave. Listen in to Part 2 -MALE STRIPPERS!  

PIMP GIMP! Disability advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie sets Sandra straight about loving and having autonomy over your own body, no matter what the circumstances. TOPICS: Types of disability, Cross-disability, Spinal cord injury, Sex with paralysis, Being special-special, Robin's rare birth defect, Physical therapy sex ed, BDSM, Sex and dating, Person-frist language, Vocabulary: "able-bodied," "crip," and "gimp," Confidence, Feeling broken, Disabled-not-desperate, Self-driving cars, independence, Tindr, Disclosing, Cane, Masturbation, Dr. Marylou Naccarato, Sex toys, Loving yourself and our brains as a sexual organ!

TRIPLE A! Sandra joins a group of asexuals (Aces) at Occidental College to find out about this invisible orientation, including being asexual, aromantic and/or agender. TOPICS: Allosexual, Sexually Repulsed, Amatonormativity, Romantic coding, Coming out to family, Dating, Being lonely, Friendship, Intimacy, Visibility, Ace pride float hopes, Robot assumptions, Cheek kissing, Trying to be sexual, Consent, Resources and so much more! Checkout the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and The Thinking Asexual for more info and meetup groups near you. Watch asexuality videos at Aces Wild on YouTube! Thank you to everyone who joined us for the recording!

DILDO INCEPTION! Sandra marvels at Ox & Jesus of Oxballs, a predominantly gay hardcore toy company. TOPICS: Anal play, Vaginal cul-de-sac, Fringe fetishes, Skyscraper dildo, Straight market dongs, Nipple grippers, Art, 3D printing, Pushing balls forward, Cockring functionality, Bulges, Slings, The Hung, Longterm cocking wear, Penetrators, Goal-oriented size kings, Hollow plugs, Matterhorn lube slide plugs, Foreskin enthusiasm, Toys popular in Japan, 50 Shades of Grey tampon, Pigs & Otters, Kink lingo, Kitty play, Penis sheaths and Ball stretchers!

NO RANCH DRESSING! Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon and performance artist Marriah Moonkindred teach Sandra how to throw a party. TOPICS: Hot lesbian action, Activities, Bar area, Friendly door, Sex and social anxiety, Accidental sex parties, Welcome circle, Kinky Salon, Betty Dodson, Jack & Jill Offs, Other parties, In front of friends, Bonobos, Organic vs planned sex, Giving permission as a host, Beacon of Permission. THEN: Creating your container, BDSM, Swinging scene, Curating guests, Strap-ons, Intention setting, Pre-party orientation, Consent and boundaries, Party zones, Music, Sunday Fun-day, Jealousy, Men hosts, Cuddle Party, Deep throat, Invitations and the perfect snack table!  

KEEPING SECRETS! Sandra seeks therapist & author Dr. Tammy Nelson's wisdom for creating intentional monogamy, especially after infidelity. TOPICS: 2nd Marriages, Occupations that cheat, Fixing yourself, Transformative sex, Redefining relationships, Surviving affairs, Fixing marriage, Explicit vs impact agreements, Committing to forever, Unconditional love problems, Love as a choice, Desexualizing your relationship, Planning sex, Anticipatory eroticism, Arousal before desire, Types of affairs, Monogamy continuum, Betrayal, Integrity, Getting more of what we like and Opening your frontal cortex.

SACRED SEX! Storyteller, author and speaker Charles Eisenstein (Sacred Economics) explores the leverage point of sexuality as a path to a better world.  TOPICS: Artificial sex and money scarcity, Patriarchy, Jealousy, Changing the world, Believing it's possible, Heightened authenticity, Intimacy, Love as expansion of self to include another, The war on yourself, Nature, Revolutionary pleasure, Conquest of flesh, Reuniting with nature and body, Community, Joint creativity, Consuming fun, Primal gifts, Giving and receiving, Rumi, Profound intimacy, College sex, Soul's ego, Experts, Play, Sacred moments, Changing narrative, Demolishing your story, Relationships, Mistakes, Tamera eco-village and Separateness.

SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis.  TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions, Flirting style, British accents in America, Accidentally poly, Crying & waking = Cheching, Detailed list of partners, Therapeutic sex, Pussy Cat Dolls of Dicks, DWI, Burning Man and Exhibitionism!

CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgetting Sex, Anger, Drowning, Treatment, Sex Drive, Insensitive Doctors, Staying Sex-Positive, Connecting with Pleasure, Advocating for Yourself, Medical Mystery Solved, Genital Numbness, Erectile Dysfunction, Conscious Sex Decisions, Control, Foggy Headed, Giving Up, Mental Illness Taboo, Robin Williams and Superhero Sex Stores. 

THE FINGER TEST! Sandra investigates multiple orgasms on all bodies with the help of sex expert Rebecca Alvarez of Body Feminine, filmmaker and drag performer Joshua Grannell (Peaches Christ) and even a little Allison Moon (Girl Sex 101). We explore questions about different kinds of multiple orgasms, who can have them and how!  TOPICS: Drag celebrity superhero, Undercover sex, Drag gender, Sissy, John Waters, Rocky Horror, Heels vs Tucking, Corporate, Popular sex questions, Masturbation stats, Mirror test, Combo vs Back-to-back, Refractory, Ramping up, Male orgasm separation, Advanced Keeling, Bucket list, Penis towel exercise, Vaginal peace sign test, Penis popping out, Wet-small-and-weak, Tight college bag, Sufficient foreplay, Vacation sex, Uterus lifting, Male multiples, Anal orgasms, Touching the C,G,N, A and U spots, Peeing at ejaculation mystery, Spots on men, Million dollar spot, Taoism, Inguinal Canal, Spermatic Cord, Muffing, Spelunking and Tucking! 

ANAL G-SPOTTING RETURNS! Sandra responds to listener voicemails on virginity at 27, orgasm issues with partners, fear of sleeping with someone you actually like for once, dating while visually-impaired, repeatedly being repulsed by dates until broken up, fair-trade free-range cage-free porn, anal g-spotting, opinions on what's important for the first time having sex, will you be alone?, sex party selection and how to prepare a nervous partner and a series of beeps. Keep the magic alive. Leave Sandra a message at (310) 928-3261.

WOLVERINE VS MYSTIQUE! Sandra takes on any question from the NYC Sex Nerd Meetup group, then she fires back a few. TOPICS: Internal Orgasm, Kegel Elevator Exercise, Squirting, Kegelcisor, Sex Books: "Blow Him Away," "Red Hot Touch," "SM 101," "Guide to Getting it On," "Urban Tantra," Asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction), Visibility, Morrissey, Wolverine vs Mystique, Flash vs Superman, Nerds on Sex, Sex-Negative Drama, Nervous Partner, Tantric Sex, Yoga, Podcast Drama, Sex Nerd vs Educator, Jon Stewart, Catholicism Journey, Number of Sex Partners, Double Standard, Poly Processing and Hump Day as our sacred day.  If you're in New York City, join the NYC Sex Nerds monthly hangout on Meetup.com!  

YELLOW FEVER! Comedian and storyteller Kevin Allison (Risk!, The State) stashes his favorite sex toy and poppers away and tells us how he got into and might get out of his kinky rut. TOPICS: Risk! Storytelling, Gay Before Kindergarten, Sex Clubs, Rimming, Njoy Pure Wand, Kink Aware Professionals, Mollena Williams, Poppers Addiction, Gay Male Culture, Skipper & Gilligan, Bears & Twinks, Giving Away Power, Wanting to Please, Service Dom, Daddy Coach, Sexy Guilt, Raised Catholic, Erotic Hypnosis, Jazz, Pandora's Box, Dark Odyssey Kink Camp, Asian Men, Telling Stories, Taking Care of Yourself, Switching, Sex Therapy, Daddy/boy, Matchmaking and Healing.

SLUT PROTOCOLS! Recorded live at SF Sketchfest, Sandra explores the good, the bad and the messy of benefitting it up in our friendships. Standup comedy from Eliza Skinner at the top of the show. TOPICS: Bad at it, Benefits, Ruining the Friendship, Friend's Future Partners, Unrequited Love, Brain Juices, Pretty in Pink's Duckie, Transactional Relationships, F*** Buddies, Facebook Input, Insular Lesbian Community. Tea Party Nightmare, Wanting Something More, Psychopaths, Changing Situations, Awkward Conversations, Breaking it off, Being Nice & Respectful, Inept & Insecure, Sluts, Mitigating Love, Limerence, Sex Once a Month, Dopamine, Facebook Stalking, Sleepovers, Weekend Getaways, Group Sex, Eye Contact, Learning from Porn Work and Avoiding the Weird.

Sandra responds to listener voicemails about birth control, getting a girlfriend, the problem with cowgirl, dating with too much armor on, and what to do about your erotic portrait displayed at your ex's place. TOPICS: Virgin STDs, Trusting Yourself, IUD, Withdrawal, Intimacy, Professional Driving, Dating Site Disappointment, Self Worth, Self-Esteem, Empty Dating Site Inbox, Activity Partners, Meetup.com, Seeking Medical Attention, Clit Lacerations, Embitterment Toward Women, Deal with Past Hurt, Ex-Casual Friend, Fear of Seeming Dishonest or Untrustworthy, Obligation and Tasteful Nudes.      If you'd like to ask Sandra a question, leave a message at (310) 928-3261. 

SCISSORING DEBATE CONTINUED! Sandra finds out how comedian Cameron Esposito's new album title, Same Sex Symbol intersects with pop culture, LGBTQIA visibility and the key to dating. TOPICS: Rhea Butcher, TV Specials, 10 Years a Comic, Lesbian, Dating Boys, Women Friendships, Obvious Child, Vaginal Birth, Biological Clock, Dogs vs Babies, #murphthederph, Lesbian Sex Symbol, Not Butch or Femme, Fashion Advice, Uniqlo, David Bowie, Varied Gender Expression, Confidence, Transparent, Jeffrey Tambor vs Jared Leto's Acceptance Speeches, Trans Visibility, Brokeback Mountain, Improv, How to Be a Lesbian, Secrets in the Improv Details, Becoming Dateable, Your Source of Power, Survival Tactics, Men's Gender Norms, Working on Yourself, Shy, BDSM, Becoming Funnier, Joke Secrets, Dreaming in Jokes, Talking About Feelings, The Comedy Bible, Feminine Comique and Double Dildos!

MILF, GILF and TILF! Japanese plus size porn star Kelly Shibari answers prying questions about porn lingo, vaginal stamina and retiring well from the industry she loves. TOPICS: James Deen, Asian Age Progression, Growing Up in Tokyo, Getting into Porn, Bucket List, Plus Size Sex Ed Video, Jessica Drake, Star Showcase, First Anal Scene Preparation, Cervix Punching, Cuddling, Tease Footage, Couples Porn, Defining Gonzo, Reverse Bukkake, Dress Sizes in Fashion vs Porn, Terms like: Thick vs Chubby vs BBW vs SSBBW, Beyonce, Niche vs Mainstream, Alexis Texas, Spinner Height, Women of Size, Face Sitting, Weight-based Restraint Play, "Stripping Across America," Men in Porn, Evan Stone, The Nineties, Xander Corvus, and Exit Strategies!

BECOMING YOURSELF! Sandra clarifies her New Year's announcement with ex-cohost Dave Ross (Terrified podcast), exploring their shifting identities, burnout and what it means for their careers. TOPICS: A Private Private Life, Feelings in Standup Comedy, Revealing Secrets, Losing Touch with Yourself, Sex Nerd vs Sex Educator, Public Scrutiny, Rape Jokes, Finding Your Voice, "Feelings Guy," Being All of Yourself, Self-Obsession, Dogs, Licking Your Own Genitals, Defining Burnout, Sketch, Memoir, Codependence, Brand, Co-Hosting Philosophy, Jackie Kashian and the Nerdist Holiday Party.    

POLY-SATURATED! A Zen master of his own emotions, Sandra's relationship mentor talks about the skills he uses to navigate his poly lifestyle. TOPICS: Catholic Wine, Maximum Bandwidth, Knowing Yourself, Dating Your Species, Choosing the Single Life, Ultimatums, Protecting Your Partner by Lying, American Idol, Long Distance Relationship, Getting Cheated On, First Poly Relationship, Veto Power, New Relationship Energy, Triggers, Refusing Comparisons, Patience, Commitment Phobia, High School, Postponing Passion, Hook-ups, Dirty & Wrong, Choosing Love, No as a Complete Sentence, Aging and Disability and Abundance vs Excess.

STEALTH-ER-BATE. Sandra gets real about her deal lately and sex educator Ashley Manta throws down naughty tips for hot phone sex. TOPICS: Sex Nerd vs Sex Ed, Feeling Feelings, Planning for Phone Sex, Why vs How & What, Connective Experience, Verbalizing Sexy, Reading Erotica, Practice Your Words, Narrating, Honesty, Bluetooth, Common Barriers, Breath, Auditory Feedback, Toys, Smiling Sounds,  Moaning Tips, No Limitations and Negotiating Phone Sex. 

HOW TO FLIRT IN COLOMBIA. Author and science communicator Pere Estupinya sheds brilliant light on sex science and sensuality in the Spanish speaking world. TOPICS: Catalan vs Spanish, Male Multiple Orgasm, Scientist at a Sex Party, Orgasm Physiology, Female Ejaculation, Men vs Women, The Clit-G Spot Connection, Sponge Innervation, Vagus Nerve Magic, Spinal Cord Injury Sex, Latin and South American Sensuality vs Gringo Sexuality, Hooking Up in NYC, Flirting in Colombia, Sex Ed vs Science, HPV, The Importance of Sexual Diversity and the Value of Sex Science.

  JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) forward questions about what it's like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good Genetic Stock, Getting Objectified, Chubby Bullied Kid, San Diego Comic Con, Intense Weight Loss, Objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, Fame, Status, Attractive Assumptions, Narcissism, terrible with Women, True Love, The Game, Men's Health Cover, Skinny to Beefy, on Set Story, Passion, Pretty Bonuses, Revisionist History, Non-Conformist Flabbiness and Mystery. 

  GETTING LAID THROUGH LAUGHTER! Hilarious comedian, podcaster (Ding-Donger via Nerdist) and actor Matt Braunger shares his sharp insight into the world of sex in standup comedy on both sides of the mic. TOPICS: Last Names, Sex Cave, Rancor, Writing Sex Jokes, April Richardson, Filthy On-Stage, Pushing Buttons, Flirting, Hitting on the Help,  Getting Hit On, Bombing, Unsexy Nudity, Richard Pryer, PSAs, Trying Standup Comedy, Sex Specifics, Making People Laugh, Free Speech, Sex Negative Jokes, Alternative Comedy, Patton Oswalt, Riffing, Hitting on a Comic, Making Mistakes vs Taking Chances and Boners.

WORK YOUR ANGLES! Enjoy this special holiday romp with nurse and adult super star Nina Hartley!  Celebrating 30 years in porn, Nina shares the steps to giving pleasure in the driver's seat. TOPICS: Technique vs Attitude, Privilege, Sex Tricks, Intercourse, Coital Alignment Technique, Rhythm, Steps to Wielding a Penis, Empathy to Pleasure, Anterior vs Posterior Walls, Lateral Fornix vs Cervical Os, Fourchette, Lever and Fulcrum, Introitus vs Vestibule, Tolerating vs Craving Penetration, Real Life Arousal, Pre-cum, "Master of O," The Sopranos, Lady Astride, Narrow Chairs, Tapping Out, Threesomes and Sapiosexuality.  

COVERING UP THE NERD! Sandra asks porn star and edible maker, Justine Joli, inappropriate questions about the pros & cons of being beautiful. Find out what happens when "the world reflects something that [we] don’t see." TOPICS: OkCupid, Finally Seeing Yourself, Bullying, Mullet, Catcalling, Aria Giovanni, Body Dysmorphia, Lesbian Sex, Body Issues, Ideal Porn Star, Tattoos, Bonnie Rotten, Belladonna, "Transexual Fairy Godmother Poop Show," Plastic Surgery Addiction, Dr. Victoria Zdrok, Boob Jobs, Emily Marilyn, Adult Circumcision, Weight Loss, Makeup as War Paint, Armoring Up, Staying Perfect, Halo Effect, Having Superpowers, Feeling Inauthentic and Detached, Covering Up the Nerd Underneath, Korean Skin Brushing, Dangerous Attention, Aging, Beauty Secrets, Jealousy,  Getting Free Drinks, Sad Puppy Dog Face, How to Reject Someone, Hot Men, Fabio and Weed Jerky!

GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Effect Your Sex Life!

FOR THRILL SEEKERS AND COMFORT CREATURES! Sandra fangirls out over Ian Kerner Ph.D, MFT, sex therapist and author of the bestselling oral sex book, "She Comes First." They explore the myriad reasons why the book hits home, how to create a sex space that helps our minds deactivate and surrender, the link between female arousal and stress, and a refreshing perspective on porn. TOPICS: Unbearable Lightness of Being, Fruity Book Covers, Written for Men, Women Fans, Strunk & White, Philosophical Approach, Sexual Cripple, Satisfying Women, Intercourse Discourse, An Alternative Path to Pleasure, From Tormented to Joyful, Deconstruction, "Cunnilingus Class," Nina Hartley, A Modest Approach, Mental Deactivation, Fantasizing During Sex, Seduction, Theory of Courtship, Physiological vs Mental Aspects of Sex, Safe Space for Fantasy, Core Erotic Themes, Jack Morin, Esther Perel, The Paradox of Cozy & Thrilling, Analysis as Inhibiting Arousal, and finally the Pros and Cons of Porn Usage.  

NECROPHILIA EXPLAINED! Mortician, author and founder of The Order of the Good Death, Caitlin Doughty joins Sandra to explore the surprising ways death and sex intersect. TOPICS: Sex Party Etiquette, Ask a Mortician, Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, Death-Positivity, Goths, Morbid Titillation, Increasing Sex Drive, Life Begets Death, Relationship Options, Funeral Industry Inside Scoop, Instincts, Vagina-colored Glasses, Halloween, Zombies, the Taboo of Sadness & Jealousy, Death's Ankle, Carpe diem and Seize the butt stuff! Also, the best "Clueless" reference in the known universe.  

RULES, AGREEMENTS AND BOUNDARIES, OH MY!  “More Than Two” authors Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert offer a problem solving toolkit for your relationship, no matter what the style, while examining polyamory as a cultural and ethical system for channeling non-monogamy. TOPICS: Poly Theory, Swinging, Casual Sex, Small Town Swingers, “Pearl Harbor,” “Frozen,” “Drinking Buddies,” “Her,” Intrinsic Relationship Styles, Military Couples, Moral Practicalities, Con Sex, 100 Mile Rule, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” Polyfidelity, Polyfamily vs Tribe, Religious Polygamy, Pitfalls of Passive and Triangular Communication, British “Last Biscuit” Problem, Metamour, Listening Skills of Direct Communication, Rules vs Agreements vs Boundaries, Kitty Ears, 2 Ethical Commandments, Reversal Thingy-ness, Training Wheels, Self Work and Regional Online Dating!

NO PUNCHING ALLOWED! Girl Sex 101 author and sex educator Allison Moon clarifies misunderstandings about her favorite activity: vaginal fisting. THEN Jess & Roe give us a hand with 201 and 301 techniques. TOPICS: Accidental Fisting, Sex Menu, Lesbian Stuff, Being Inside, Connecting Deeply, Extreme Stereotypes, Tightness Myth, Snapping Back, Squirting, Vaginal Muscle Activity, Koko the Gorilla, Pregnancy Prep, Aroused Labor, Lube, Fingering+, Internal Massage and Talking to Girls. THEN: Fisting Friends, Performance Anxiety, The Purpose of the Pinky, Pussy Demolition, Kung Fu Grip, Gloves, Social Judgement, Handballing, Fancy Double Hand Move, Withdrawl and NO PUNCHING!  

GHOST PENIS, BREAKING UP AND CELEBRITY FACES! Sandra makes friends with the insightful podcast pioneer duo Keith Malley and Chemda of Keith and The Girl. TOPICS: “Staying Together for the Baby,” Mutual Breakup, Louis C.K.’s Divorce Wisdom, Popping the Emotional Question, Feeling Like a Princess, Trans Identity, Lauren Hennessey, Accidental Activism, Trans Expectations, Plastic Surgery, Angelina Jolie, Meg Ryan & James Spader, Facelifts, Body Judgements, Lorde & Kelly Clarkson, Glam Rock, Makeup Phobia, Strap-ons, Masculine Identity, Being Seen, and Aging Gracefully.

OWN YOUR DESIRE! Dating advice expert, Harris O'Malley, a.k.a. Dr. Nerdlove chimes in on solutions, struggles and pitfalls of the nice guy. TOPICS: Pickup Artists, Erotic Masquerade Drama, Kino Escalating, Rejection, Cognitive Dissonance, Transactional Friendships, "Pretty in Pink," Duckie, One-Sided Affection, Is nice good enough?, Confirmation Bias, The Dark Triad of Psychopathy, Machiavellianism & Narcissism, Douchbags, Captain Jack Harkness of Dr. Who & Torchwood, Halo Effect, Social Engineering, Letting it Go and When to make your move!

  Witness Sandra make new friends with author, sex ed heavy hitter and straight shooter Cory Silverberg. TOPICS: Rubbing One Off, White Men, Journalism, Nerds, Anxiety, Self-Awareness, Squelching, Erotic Hypnosis, Aroused Ovulation, Sex Science Snags, Individuals vs Populations, Sex Writing, Flirting, Dating & Disability, Low Bar Sex Ed, Sex vs Reproduction, Gender, Kickstarter, Intro Drama, Person of Color, Aggressive Sperm vs Passive Egg (myths) and P-i-V Sex. Checkout Cory's phenomenal children's book, "What Makes a Baby."

Author and Super Expert Emily Nagoski Ph.D. reveals a new world of knowledge in understanding sex drive. PLUS! Allison Moon chimes in on cunnilingus. TOPICS: Pleasure Plateau of Alcohol, Valley of Regret, Buck Rogers, Desire: Spontaneous vs Responsive vs Context-sensitive, Sex Break & Gas Pedals, Fight or Flight or Freeze, Shaking it Off, Other Drives, The Little Monitor, The Pit of Despair and How to shift goals for maximum success!

Live from SDCC 2014, it's the Nerdist Podcast Super Panel with Matt Mira (Nerdist, James Bonding), Jonah Ray (Nerdist, Jonah Raydio), Janet Varney (The JV Club), Cole Stratton (Pop My Culture), Gil Letelier (The Mutant Season), Ben Blacker (Nerdist Writers Panel, Nerdist Comics Panel, Thrilling Adventure Hour), Ben Acker (Thrilling Adventure Hour), Sandra Daugherty (Sex Nerd Sandra) and Dave Ross (Terrified)!

HYPNOTIC TELEPORTATION! Sandra's mind gets blown with stories from newbie practitioners Gavin & Tish, plus expert Mark Wiseman sticks around to chime in! TOPICS: Hypnotyping, Sub Safety, Chair Malfunctions,Word Choice,  Hypno-Friend-With-Benefits, Fractionation, Mutual Induction, Shrooms, Driving Metaphor, Beginner’s Luck, Post-Hypnotic Suggestions, Breast Play, Pleasure Training, Cylon, The Fermata, Time Control Fantasy, Mind Frack, Placebo Effect, NLP, and Brain Scanning Science!

Sandra investigates an alluring topic she knows nothing about with 15 year hypnosis veteran and author, Mark Wiseman! TRIGGER WARNING: Near the end, a hypnotic demonstration with submissive Dani brings about... intense results. TOPICS: Trance States, Dropping, Hypnogogic & Hypnopompic States, Falling Asleep, Theta Brain Waves, Finding Your Hypnotism Voice, Drawing People In, Chest Pounding Exercise, Kink, Orgasming on Command, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Social Skills, Building Rapport, Mirroring & Matching Body Language, Bill Clinton, Temple Stroking, Kinesthetic Modality, Sex Noises, Hot Buttons, Service Dom, Hypno-Bondage, Belief & Expectation, Context as Key, Classical Conditioning. Stay tuned for Stories in Part 2!  

  CROWDSOURCING LOVE & SEX! Coming back from Reid Mihalko's Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sandra asks fellow campers about how to find love, how to get laid and other tidbits. TOPICS: Creating a relationship that befits you, Finding compatibility, Being aggressively yourself, Filtering people, Setting expectations, Loving yourself first, Don't underestimate yourself or others, Reflecting on self-treatment, Fill your cup first, Loving from a strong place, Diability and the right to sex, Asking for assistance, Be interested not interesting, Eye contact, Find people who like sex the way you do, Make yourself comfortable, Rejection, List your accomplishments, Fill yourself up before someone else does, Let them discover you, Butter churn, Care & Feeding manual, Smiling, Breathing and Laughter, Making noise, Know how much you can give to yourself and remember folks, the vagina can take a lot of pressure. Thanks to everyone who shared!

HAND HUMPING! Author and advocate Pamela Madsen teaches Sandra to rock out with her arousal out. BUT FIRST! Sandra ask Jason a prying question. TOPICS: Ball Cupping, Flaccid State Pleasure, Erectile Dysfunction, Losing Sight of Pleasure, Low Libido, Lotus Lift Meditation, Finding Arousal, Religious Movement, Aroused Meditation, The Heel Trick, Depak Chopra, Childhood Shaming, Numbness, Erotic Energy, Inner Pharmacy, Kegels, All Day Arousal, Lighting Up Our Bodies, Observer Sex, Self Esteem, Un-armouring Ourselves, Roleplay, Power and the 3 questions to ask yourself when you're turned on!  

THE ORGASMATRON! Continuing onward with the creator of the adorable webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen and comedian Amy Miller, Sandra ponders sex toys, workshops and the sexier side of Portland. TOPICS: Bad Dragon Toys, Clitoral Slumber, Sybian, Erika's First Sex Ed Workshop, Deep-throating, She Bop, Palates, Strip Clubs, Hypothesis, Culture of Excess, Courtney Love & Kurt Cobain, Being Vanilla, Horny All the Time, Ball Kicking, Sex Communities of PDX, Theories, 3nder Threesome App, So Many Holes, Eiffel Tower, Sex Party Decisions, Club Sesso vs Kinky Salon, Webcomic Advice, BDSM Stories and Vaginal Plugs.

WHAT’S UNDER THE BLANKET? Sandra flies to Portland to podcast live with the creator of the wildly popular webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen. BUT FIRST, comedian Amy Miller spills it about dating, sex and love in Portland. TOPICS: Casual Sex, Dating Younger Men, “No Worries,” Being a Sex Educator vs Cartoonist, Dar, Penny Arcade’s Robert Khoo, The OJST Origin Story, The Dick & Vagina Crowd, Battle Hardened C*nt, Hitachi vs Doxy, Spontaneous Orgasms, Minna Limon vs Je Joue MiMi, 5 Mystery Sex Toys, Delivering “The Buisness,” Nipple Antennae, Dalek Roleplay, Bath House, Swinger Club, Butt Stuff and the toy that leaves Erika speechless.

CAN YOU BE TOO LUBRICATED? Sandra answers her inbox, wrestling with a genital and relationship conundrum. TOPICS: Erotic Hypnosis, Quickie Lengths, Sex Friction, Fast Sex, Kitty Litter, Selfish Spouses, Being on Team Fun and The Whole Point of Sex.  

THE UNCANNY VALLEY AND THE MOST AMAZING BALLS! Sinthetics makers Matt Krivicke and Bronwen Keller help Sandra explore the world of the most lifelike, anatomically correct silicone dolls on the market. But first, comedian Kurt Braunohler weighs in. TOPICS: Judgement, Fantasy, Threesomes, Mannequins and Art Pieces, "Lars and the Real Doll," Ownership, Origins, Art, Life Saving, Creepy Factor, Torso Sex, Penis Size, Teledildonics, Robotics, Male Dolls, Replicating Life, Mad Scientist, Penis Molding, Labia Art, Vulva Perfume, Bags of Buttholes, Vagankle, Doll Gape, Doll Tongue, Collectors, Forums and Community, Loneliness, Client Stories, Compassion, Body Mechanics and How to Meet the Dolls!

Sociologist Dr. Lisa Wade reveals the fascinating reality behind hook-up culture, what it is, and surprising ways to do it better. TOPICS: College Students Trapped on Campus, Choice vs Obligation, Expectation, Narrowly-defined Sexual Exploration, Orgies, College Parties, Paula England, Science!, Orchestrated Chaos, 1920s: The Crazy Years, Courting vs Dating, Heterosexual Socializing, Makeup & Dieting Origins, Slaves & Prostitutes, The Charleston, 1940s: Same Sex Experimentation, Richard von Krafft-Ebing, McCarthyism, Foreign Wives, 1950s: Lock it Down!, 1960s: Sexual Revolution!, Promiscuity, Value of the Masculine vs Feminine, Andro-Centrism vs Sexism, Emotionaless Sex, Broken Sexuality?, Resiliency, Respect-Kindness-Trust vs Desperate-Needy-Clingy, Rules of Hook-up Culture, Benevolent Casual Sex, Attachment Management and Friends with Benefits.

EARLY SEX & LOVE! Comedian Kurt Braunohler helps Sandra wrestle with the question, “Can we be fulfilled in early relationships?” TOPICS: Judgement, Rumshrpinga(?????), “This American Life,” Falling in Temporary Love, Casual Sex, Feeling Resentful & Unfulfilled, Inevitability vs Possibility, Scared & Alone, “Chinatown Bust,” Dismissing Doubts, Grass is Greener, The Ideal Person, Persona, Fantasizing & Flirting with Others, Romantic Discontent, Exploring, Settling into Roles, “They Came Together,” Soul Mates, Completing Yourself, Choosing Your Person, Trapped, Handling Loneliness, Living Alone, Boredom, Inner Tardis, Breaking Up vs Growing Together, Cheating, Baby Fever, Inauthenticity and Sexual History.

DOES BOOZE MAKE US HORNY? Author and science journalist Adam Rogers ("Proof: The Science of Booze") takes us through the sex & alcohol laboratories and reveals all the butt stuff along the way. BUT FIRST! Attorney Allan Gelbard explains this week's Supreme Court decision placing the employer between a woman and her doctor. TOPICS: The Effect of Ethanol on the Brain, Magic Mushrooms, Scientific Mysteries, Placebo Booze, "Drunken Comportment," Soda Pop Opiates, Drunken Promiscuity, Unsafe Sex, Increased Aggression, Gin vs Bourbon, Psychoactive Mechanisms, Thujone, Horny-Making, Inebriated Arousal, Erections, Hangovers and THE POWER OF SUGGESTION! BONUS: Contraception, Hobby Lobby, Enforcing Beliefs on Others, Religious Freedom, Justice Ginsberg, Corporate Taxation, Fertility Issues, 401k Hypocrisy, Viagra, Unpaid Maternity Leave, Election Repercussions, Voting, Sex Positive Professionals and Critical Reasoning.

SHARK ROLEPLAY & SECRET CRUSHES! Comedian & late bloomer Jackie Kashian (The Dork Forest, This Will Make an Excellent Horcrux) dishes on finding her spouse and developing great bedroom teamwork! TOPICS: Comedian Socializing, Depression Contests, Horcrux, Polyamory, Ultimatums, First Boyfriend, Comedy Sex Life, Cheating, Late Blooming, Making Friends, Joke Wisdom, Porn vs Comedy, Money, Tools of Comedy, Generalizing Women, Online Dating Strategy, The Universal Friend Zone, Her Love Story, Sweat Equity, 60 Year-Old Vagina, Sex Abuse, Sexual Fantasies, Triggers. One Night Stand, Game Mechanics, LARPing, @Midnight and remember folks, sex is supposed to be fun!  

Comedian and actress Rachel Butera (Howard Stern, America's Got Talent) shares how great breast fondling can feel... if done well. Then we discover the mysteries of bra engineering. TOPICS: Rosie O'Donnel Impression, Breast Slang (Jugs vs Titties vs Boobies vs Knockers), Boobs in the Raw, Good Cleavage, Sex Physics, The World's Greatest Tits, Bra Math, 42C vs 38DD, Breast Pawing vs Cupping, The Underneath, Caressing Tips, BE THE BRA!, Fondling, Starting with Broad Strokes, Nipple Orgasms, Butt Cheeks, THE IDEAL TIT EXPERIENCE, Tongue Flicking, Almost-Areola, Tongue Swooping, Kick Ass Casual Sex, Boob Smacking, Pleasurable Jiggling, Porn Phantom Sensation, Cleavage Politics, An Air of Mystery. THEN: One-Handed Bra Unclasping, How to Effectively Put on a Bra, Engineering and the Magic of Side Boob Smooshing.

  BLOWJOB SIMULATIONS & SEX IMPROV! Comedian Moshe Kasher and Sex Educator Ashley Manta share their stories at both ends of a phone sex chat line. TOPICS: Virgin Adolescent Phone Sex, Bar Mitzvah Money, Gay Chat Lines, Orientation Theories, Manikins, The Phone Bill, Virginity, Deaf Phone Sex Story, Comedy Special, Foreign Workarounds, Filipino Mystery Call. THEN: Frisky Feminist Press, Sounding Sexy, Fake Ad Pictures, Sex Work, Popular Requests, Fake Gagging, Cigarette Fetishists, Fart Noises, Mirroring, Torture Fantasy, Favorite Callers, Body Quivering, Fake Orgasms and Alabama Preachers!

  TASTE THE RAINBOW! Sandra explores the athletic world of water sports. TOPICS: Squiks, Piss Play, Submission, Sterility Myths, Maple Syrup, Hydration, Open Relationships, Babygirl, Nipple Clamp Ingenuity, Taboo, Urine Enema, Anatomy, Hollow Butt Plugs, Urine Bong, Humiliation, Alpha Dogs, Puppy Pits, Gender, Medical Concerns, Pee vs Clowns, Acquired Taste, Gag Reflex, Beer, Urine Neutralizers, Corn Flakes, Vulnerability, Asparagus, Logistics, Getting Pee-shy, Chugging, Pungency and  the age old question of blood vs spit vs pee. Yum! 

TRIGGER WARNING! Sandra searches for understanding and insight in the wake of the Isla Vista shootings. Therapist Dr. Chris Donaghue and writer Barbie Davenporte weigh in. TOPICS: Terrorism, Mental Health, Relationality, Chicken or Egg, Fragmentation, Disassociation, Fox News' Homosexual Impulses, Othering, Entitlement, Babies & Puppies, Misogyny, Gender as Social Construct, Universal Needs, Alpha and Beta Males, Healthy Anxiety, #NotAllMen, Compassion & Empathy. THEN: Feminism, Equality for All, More Hashtags, Comic-Con Upskirt Photo, Parking Lots, Gay Bars, Jamaican Street Harassment and Club Humping.

FEELINGS ARE EVERYWHERE! What do we do when we feel repulsed by our own body? Elaine shares her experience with body dysmorphia and sex educator Elle Chase shares tools to find outer peace. TOPICS: Louis C.K., OCD, Dr. Ari Winograd, Cultivating Sources of Beauty, Cellulite, Pubic Hair, Seeking Help, Nerds, Escaping Feelings, Self-Help Pitfalls, Sandra's Bully, Embodied Feelings, Deep-throating. THEN: Can you handle that nothing is wrong with you? Beach Body, Big n Tall Shops, Looking Healthy, Healthy Ways to Compliment Someone, Feeling Good vs Sexy, Relationship Red Flags, Charisma, Sexy vs Sensual, Food Metaphors, Finding Your Sexy, Mirror Masturbation, Feeling Guilty, and FYI No One Cares (what you look like).

  Sandra explores the Venn diagram of sex & comics with creators Jason Porath (Rejected Princesses), Dean Trippe (Something Terrible) and Matt Fraction (Sex Criminals)! TOPICS: Batman Theory, "Saga," "Y the Last Man," Tina Fey, Joker, Women in Refridgerators, Tropes, "Alias," "Frozen," "Invincible" Spoilers on Issue #110. // Sexual Abuse, Batman, The Multiverse, Dr. Who, Comic-con Stories, The Taxi Driver, Sexual Healing, Robin, Time Travel, Changing Our Narratives. // Alter Egos, James Bond, Chip Zdarsky, "The Fermata," "Out of This World," Billy Wilder, Selling Sex and a new, surprising fan base.

LOVE AT FIRST SITE & THE SPEED OF ATTRACTION! Sandra searches for the facts on how to choose someone who is right for you. Sex educator Elle Chase shares her current dilemma, while therapist Kate Loree throws down some knowledge on what the person you fall in love with says about YOU! TOPICS: Ego, Ignoring Your Instincts, Life Experience, Storytelling, Dating Site Fails, Young Guys, Courting Process, The List, Valid Feelings, New Relationship Energy, Neurochemicals, Imago Therapy, Falling in Love, Corrective Experience, Emotional IQ, Breakup Pain, The Known vs Unknown, Exhilaration and Finding a Growth-Oriented Partner. P.S. DON'T DATE WHEN YOU'RE LONELY!

MORE DRAMA! Comedian Jenn Tisdale, sex educator Twanna Hines and several audience members including science journalist Pere Estupinyà weight in! TOPICS: Jealousy, Security, Giving Up, Monogoamy vs Marriage, OkTwitter, Depression, Swinging Monogamists, "Sexually Social," This American Life, Paradox of Choice, Online Dating, Dying Alone, "Manic Pixie Dream Girl," Codependence, Personal Growth, "Fewer the Merrier," Halo Effect of Monogamy, Social vs Sexual Monogamy, The Science of Falling in Love and THE BEST ACCENT EVER.

DRAMA! Sex Educator Twanna Hines and comedian Jenn Tisdale help Sandra explore the myriad questions of monogamy. TOPICS: Dating Complications, When a Relationship Begins, Denying Feelings, Ongoing Intention, James Deen, Being a Good Person, One-Sided Monogamy, Keeping Secrets, Managing Your Relationship, Appreciating What You Have, Runaway Train, Attraction, Guilt, Flirting, Needing Attention & Jealousy. Stay tuned next week when we pickup on jealousy… AND BEYOND!

  KINK CONTRACTS, LOVE LETTERS & SEX GUIDES. Lauren Marie Flemming a.k.a. Queerie Bradshaw shares easy ways for writing to improve your love & sex life. PLUS Gregory Scott a.k.a. UBK of Kush Audio tries to figure out why Sandra feels broken. Good luck, UBK! TOPICS: Small Town Girl, Gonorrhea, Sex & Loss, Breakups, Postcards, Love Letters, Negotiating Consent, Law Degree, Sharing Fantasies, Analogue, Depression Jar, Truth or Dare, Pen & Paper Fetish, Frisky Feminist Press, Twitter, Steve Almond, Showing-not-Telling, Yes/Hell Yes/Maybe/Not Really/Hell No List, Need/Want/Can't List, Erotica, Flying Wish Paper and Hard Truths. THEN: Nanowrimo, Commitment, Choosing a Topic, Frustration, Memoir, Feeling Selfish, Gay Face on a Plane, Pseudonym, Kinds of Artists, Finishing Things and Sex & Music. 

WHAT IS A LEATHER DADDY? Orpheus & Indigo are back, answering Sandra's questions about the mysterious world of leather, leading up to their entry in the SoCal Master/slave Contest (sclms.net). Artist Jenny Fine helps Sandra prepare. TOPICS: Fish Panties, Depression, Leather Puppy, Police Academy, Fractals, 1950s Relationships, Fitting In, Angry Black Woman, Anger, Whipped, Emotional Enslavement, Leather Mythos, WWII, Tom of Finland, Earning Your Boots, Poly Relationships, Quad Geometry and Hook Suspensions!

NERVE NINJAS & BLINDFOLD SCIENCE! Physical Therapist Adam Whitman takes Sandra on a sensual tour of our nervous system. Oh THAT'S why that feels like that! Body awareness for the win! TOPICS: Fitness, Muscle vs Nerves, Lying Patients, Words for Pain, Bend Over Magic, Two-Point Discrimination, Sensory Cortex, Fun Experiments, Healing Headaches, Stereognosis, Proprioception, Layering Sensation, Graphesthesia, Light Touch/Pain/Temperature vs Vibration/Proprioception/Fine Touch, Whole Body Sensation, Orgasm Tips, Nerve Pathways, Eastern vs Western Medicine, Myokinesthetics, Reciprocal Inhibition, Muscle Flexing & Orgasm Training, Genitals in the Brain, Changing Blood Flow, Caveman Hand, Massage, Spanking, Ticklishness, plus a BONUS look at scar tissue's unique play potential!

USING SEX TO SELL SEX! Sex worker, podcaster and writer Siouxsie Q sets Sandra straight on the sex industry. Comedian & podcaster Matt Kirshen shares surprising insight into sex work, comedy and the universe. TOPICS: Bad Day at Work, Lusty Lady, Whorientation, Firefly's Inara, Good vs Bad Sex Work, Politics, Human Rights, Emotional Health, Violence & Exploitation, The Happy Hooker Notion, Selling Sex, Annie Sprinkle, Companion Services, Self-Care, "Prostitute," Choice & Coercion, Criminalizing the Job, "Johns," Slixa, Better Crime Fighting.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS? Sex Researcher and Developmental Psychologist Dr. Zhana Vrangalova geeks out on casual sex's effect on mental health. Facts are presented, myths are busted and she sets us straight on whether someone must always gets hurt. PLUS BONUS SEX DUNGEON STORY! Sandra drags a vanilla friend to a kinky theme park. Feelings ensue. TOPICS: Casual Fling, Early Warning Signs, Tiny Breakups, Mental Health Factors, Defining it, F*** Buddies, The Romantic Continuum, Commitment, Positive vs Negative Reactions, Emotional Well Being, Authenticity, Safety, Reasoning, Pleasure, Drunk Hook-ups, Bonding Science, Social Stigma, Self Esteem, Doing it Well, College Dating Shifts, Swingers, Jerks, Pleasure Gap Research, Slut Shaming, Women's Sexual Pleasure, Orientation Influences on Hook Ups and SO MUCH DATA.  

SOUL MATES FOR REALSIES! Sandra seeks to understand marriage. Artist Jason Porath and marital unit Sarah and Gregory weigh in. TOPICS: Beyond the Wedding, Relief, Journeys Just Starting, Fear of Choosing Wrong, Future Kids' Names, Nightwing, Prioritizing the "We," "Venus and Mars on a Date," 1st Marriage Mistakes, Cohabitating, Wedding Ritual, Ketubah, Sex Life Changes, Tools, Cultivating Love, Couple's Therapy, Aligning Brain Waves, Recurring Arguments, Commitment Phobia, Pure "I" Statements, Going to Bed Angry, Triggers, How to Fight, and knowing the difference between who you are and how you be.  

LIES, LIES AND MORE LIES! Dr. Chris Donaghue sets the record straight on the role of cheating in today's relationships and what it means for partnerships of tomorrow. But first, Layperson Elaine admits to a guilty past. TOPICS: Dr. Chris answers many questions including "Is cheating avoidable?" "Where's the line?" and "How can you tell if a relationship is salvageable?". ALSO: Sandra in DC, Giving in to Temptation, Signs of a Healthy Relationship, Craving Diversity, Statistics, Cyber Sex, Fluid Boundaries, Uncomfortable Feelings, Absolute Chaos, Handling Jealousy & Anxiety, Cultural Changes, "Relationshipping," Romantic Comedies, Conflict vs Pain, Dopamine Highs, Rage, Lifelong Partnership Building, Novelty, Honoring Your Needs, Villainizing the Cheater, Loss of Attraction, Aging and Libido Mismatches. Wow! Feelings!  

COMMON QUESTIONS, MEDICAL EMERGENCIES & THE FIST OF KNOWLEDGE! Sandra hunts down 2 of her teachers and a classmate from the renowned & rigorous San Francisco Sex Information educator training. TOPICS: Prolapse Lady, Mom Boundaries, Accuracy, Googling Sex Info, Science Biases, The Dubious Eyebrow, Anecdotal Evidence, "Positive" Neutral Face, PubMed'ing "Rectal Foreign Bodies," Boy Scout Webelos, Coursera Classes, Good Reads, Yahoo Answers,  Favorite Sex Ed Moments, Dealing with STDs, Egg Shells and Other Things in Butts. Feel free to email any of your sex questions to ASKUS@SFSI.ORG. Sex Nerds are standing by.

  COMPLETE STRANGER SHARES HIS MASTURBATION TECHNIQUE. Artist Mike Squillacioti and a mysterious man join Sandra for a new twist on breathing during sex. TOPICS: Linguistic Distancing, The Tantra Episode, NO Erotic Asphyxiation, Swimming, Olympics, Sphincters, Nipple Clamps, Roller Coaster timing, Hypoxia, Masturbation, Porn Expectations, "Going to the Club," Bicycle Seat Prostate Pressure & a Frozen Steak to the Balls. THEN WE TURN A CORNER: "Do you need a lot of experience to be a good lover?" We discuss. 

MIND-BLOWING SEX & ZOMBIES! Author & Tickle Kitty CEO Dr. Sadie Allison and her partner & CTO John join Sandra for a romp through the land of love, orgasm & relationships. TOPICS: Jack Valentine, Singles Awareness Day, Cockring Story, Sadie's Journey, Engineering Sex Drawer Locks, Female vs Male Orgasm, How to Orgasm, "Tickle Her Fancy," Sex Toys, Troubleshooting Pleasure, Vibrators, Masturbation Attitude, John & Sadie's Love Story, Growing as a Couple, Finding Mr. & Ms. Right, Mind-blowing Sex, Flavored Lube, Butt Stuff and a hearty game of "Would You Rather…?"

TWISTED AROUSAL RESEARCH, EROTIC SCHADENFREUDE & MORE! Author of "Perv: The Erotic Deviant in All of Us," Jesse Bering, PhD expands what is normal & shares new vocab words to amaze your friends! TOPICS: The Young Turks, Objectophilia, Melissophilia, Neanderthal Source Material, Origins of Kink, Erotic Dependency, Fetish vs Paraphilia, Developmental Imprinting, Female Erotic Plasticity, Sandra's Cartoon Kink, Masochistic Tendencies, 5 Erotic Age Orientations, Virtuous Pedophiles, Innate Psychological Biases, Predicting the Future of Sex, "Squick," Roman Showers, Wall of Porn, Genetic Fitness, Studying Lust & Disgust and thinking with the right head!

NINJA SKILLS FOR SEX! Sandra gets Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus to explain a crucial technique for handling yourself in the bedroom… and beyond! TOPICS: The "Down Low," Getting Touchy-Feely, Self Care, Awareness without Judgement, The Triangle of Thoughts-Emotions-Sensations, Your Patterns, Triggers, Sandra's Trigger, Using Your Words, Tangible Feelings, A Pattern Interrupt, Run/Numb/Distract, Sandra's Dark Shadow, Favorite Negative Emotions, Manipulation, Buddhist Science, Third Eye, Astrology "Personal Growth," Brené Brown, Feeling Worthy, Dr. Who, Our Inner Geography, Resiliency, Jenn's TEDx Talk and Befriending Your Body.

DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE... America's Beloved Porn Journalist Gram Ponante helps Sandra process a wild 24 hours at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo. TOPICS: Describing AVN, Rock & Roll, Swinger Squirting Seminar, Chocolate Dildo, National Geographic, Light Hearted Sex Party, "Sex Educator Serious," Squirting, Metaphors, G-Spot Flux Capacitor, Jack the Zipper, Celebrity Chef, Hummer Limo, Justine Joli, Jiz Lee, Ryan Mclane, Pop Rocks Sushi, Stereotypes, Porn Star Prom and the industry turning over a new leaf.

USE LUBE! Sex & relationship expert Reid Mihalko and comedian Matt Kirshen join Sandra to examine the redheaded stepchild of sexual technique. TOPICS: Key Parties, "Taking the Piss," British & German Kinks, Sploshing, Dogging, Neil Strauss, Fisting, Porn & Visual Learning, Boob Cop, Solo Practice, Biofeedback, Circus People, Ball Play, Lube Preferences, Finding the Right Speed, Finger-banging, Kissing, Laughter During Sex and Benny Hill in the Bedroom. 

REALITY TV, GLEE & WISHFUL THINKING! First, author & sex educator Dr. Logan Levkoff dishes on media literacy. Then, Sandra digs into her fan fic fantasies with Monica Moon. LOGAN TOPICS: Sexual Double Standards, Slutwalk, Judgy Newscasters, Miley Cyrus, Blurred Lines, "OITNB," "Teen Mom," "Knocked Up," Seeing What Goes Unsaid, Roe v Wade, Politics, "Game of Thrones," Sneaky Cameras, Good Girls vs Bad Girls, Vajayjay, Gay Marriage and the next generation. MONICA TOPICS: Sex Scenes, Embarrassment, The "Masters of Sex" O Face, Benedict Cumberbatch, Sexual Tension, "Doctor Who," Shoujo Manga, Lois & Superman, "Smallville," and "True Blood."

RECTUMS AND RESOLUTIONS! Delightful author & comedian Sara Benincasa opens up about her butt. TOPICS:  Kenny Powers, Special Olympics, Successful Resolution Strategy, Performance Anxiety, Orgasm Alternatives, Relaxing the Vag, Beyonce, Catholicism, Fleshbot Porn Awards, Anal Attitude, The Ol' College Tries, Wolf of Wallstreet, Girls, Control, Margaret Cho, External Butt Play and Epiphanies! PLUS Sara's impressive self-confidence Brainhack.

KINKY CHIMPS & PUNISHMENT BUKAKE! Author Dr. Katherine Frank, researcher Dr. Jamie Lawson and improv teacher Sawn Westfall join Sandra for a wild Q&A joinery through group sex and the animal kingdom! TOPICS: Egg Competition, Hyena Lady Penis, The Future of Group Sex, Transgression, Power & Hierarchy, Society & Sex, Dominance, Favorite Sex Books, Beastiality, Tahiti, Cross-Cultural Manly Cum Guzzling, Peacocks, Sexual Dysfunction, Anorgasmia, Pig Orgasms, Condoms, Gloves and Nina Hartley's Female Pleasure Trick. 

ORGIES! PENGUINS! SPERM COMPETITION! Researcher Dr. Jamie Lawson, author Dr. Katherine Frank and improv teacher Sawn Westfall join Sandra for part 1 of a wild ride through group sex and the animal kingdom! TOPICS: Improv, Pickup Artists, Dr. Who, Sexy Symmetry, Gay Penguins,  Bed Bugs, Traumatic Insemination, Bonobo Penis Jousting, Scientific Bias, Interbreeding, Group Sex, Orgies, Tribal Ritual, Sex Party Context, Waiting in Line, Power, Newbies, Sperm Swamping, Religious Rituals, Hopeful Sex and the Significance of Being Watched. STAY TUNED FOR PART 2!

FORNICATION! HEDONISM! SPILLING THY SEED!!! The marvelous Reverend Beverly Dale sheds light on Jesus, the Bible and how to connect our sexuality with spirituality. TOPICS: Liberation Theology, Defining "Grace," Jesus' Social Life, Being Human AND Divine, Pre-Marital Sex, Non-Marital Sex, "Sexual Immorality," the Marriage Covenant, Pleasure vs Hedonism, Pleasure as Worship, Lust, Adultery Now vs Then, Mortifying the Flesh, Celebrating God's Creation, Homosexuality, Acknowledging the Human Condition, Judgement vs Compassion and when to check yourself before you wreck yourself! 

Sandra knows you don't have time to go balls deep on a sex podcast this week, so she made you a light snack. TOPICS: Cum in the Eye, Hair in the Throat, Hustler Magazine, Beef & Graphene Condoms, Facebook's WORST sex tips, 3 GREAT sex tips and a tasty recipe for when family is no longer near.

VIRGIN TERRITORY! Sandra crowdsources insight to challenging questions about virginity in the age of adulthood. TOPICS: BDSM, Masturbation, Self-Advocacy, Kinsey Reports, Repeated Blooming, Sexual Satori with True Blood, Telling Your Partner, Terrific Accents, Waiting to be Straight, The Loosest Virgin, The Clingy Factor, The Everyhing-BUT-Virgin, Dating, Body Weight, Sex Work, French Kissing a Germaphobe, Trust, Tempur-Pedic Bed Secrets, Love & Lust, Born-Again Virgins, Fluidity, and Nerd Parenting. You can find the twitter handles of those who shared on this episode's post at Nerdist.com!

Sex expert Dr. Emily Morse joins Sandra for a philosophical jaunt through love and relationships. How DO you find… The One? TOPICS: Emily & Tony Goodies, Down Under Comfort, Dry Balls, Handlers, Reality TV, Embracing "Expert," Life Balance, Polyamory, Changing in a Relationship, Gender Language, Dating Patter Exercise, Healthy Relationships, Radical Honesty and Cultivating Self Love!

RACE FETISH & INTERETHNIC DATING! Comedian Darryl Charles and sexologist Dr. Timaree Schmit join Sandra on stage to figure out where couples have sex in their homes. Answer: Everywhere. Then sex & dating expert Twanna Hines sets Sandra straight on how to "get down with the Funky Brown." TOPICS: Awkward Farting, Racial Stereotypes, Cuckolding, Math, Marriage, Cats, Cohabiting, Toilets, Sex Dreams, Breaking Bad, Urethral Sounding and the Pornhub Study. THEN: OKCupid Trends, Flawed Assumptions, Black Women Dating, Selection Bias and More Science!

CROTCHLESS DIAPERS & SCHOOL GIRLS SKIRTS! Mako Allen, co-host of the Big Little Podcast, lets us into a weird-hot, edgy, taboo world and why, for a pants-wetter, he's a pretty serious guy. TOPICS: Veruca Salt, Submission Assumptions, Pedophilia, Sissies, Taoism, The Worst Word,  Relationships, The Fetish Underneath, Fetish Double Standard, His Big & Little Family, Not-So-Little Girls, Incest Play, Deep vs Skimming Knowledge, Reductive Dirty Talk, The Book Technique, and a whole lotta Sandra taking a moment. 

BOOTY POPPING SPECIFICS! TWERKING ACCURACIES! Multi-faceted professor and podcast host Dr. Timaree Schmit sets the record straight on sex ed professions, burlesque and so much more! TOPICS: Sexuality Career Paths, Life Sustainability, Cliteracy, Dinosaur Burlesque Costumes, The Sybian, Burlesque & Feminism, Sex Nerd Rebellion, Dance Science, Bedroom Crossovers, Harlem Shake, Zumba, Flirtification,

ENERGY ORGASMS! Barbara Carrellas is a sex educator, workshop facilitator, sex/life coach, and motivational speaker who delights in blurring the lines between sacred and profane. She is the author of "Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century." TOPICS: Sexual Expansionist, AIDS Crisis, Time Machine Sex, Drug Fueled Dance Clubs, Tantra as Safe Sex, Narnia, Ecstatic Orgasm, Tantra vs Tantric Sex, The Great Big Good, Catholic Backgrounds, Sexy Breathe, Quickie Tantra Tips, BDSM, Sacred Sex, Conscious Sexuality, Hand & Pinky Exercise, Cultural Appropriation, Ghosts, Fakir, New Possibilities, Staying Present, Fantasy and knowing there's more if you want it!

NIPPLES, NAPES & NULLO! Comedian Erin Lennox and musician Blain Macintosh help Sandra discuss hot spots! TOPICS: Slutty Pride, Big Nipples, Breast Perimeter Sweeps, Nipple-Clit Trifecta, Moving Targets, Fake Ear Theories, Boob-on-the-Eye, Blindfold & Breast Story, Ticklish Zones, Man Nipples, Nape of Neck, Power Moves, Queefing, Nullo, Smegma, Sounding, Headgasms and Return of the Orgy Dome!

Sex & shibari expert Midori explains the many flavors of rope bondage, inspiring Sandra to search for answers beyond the scope of rope. TOPICS: Female Dominance, Sci-Fi Smut, Ancient Tokyo, Mud & Feathers Kickstarter, Shibari vs Rope Bondage vs Cowboy Bondage, Erotic Connection, How to Play Hot, Blindfolds & Anticipation, Problem-Solving Pleasure, Easy Bondage Tips & Dirty Japanese! Then Rachael ("Happy Steak & BJ Day" episode) joins Sandra for a round of vulnerable soul searching. #feelings 

STORIES FROM THE STREETS! Sex educator Francisco Ramirez (United Nations & MTV) shares stories & techniques from years of giving sex & dating advice in the parks of NYC. TOPICS: Healthy Sex, Screwing vs Screwing Over, Doing Stuff To vs With Someone, Common Questions, Your Instincts, How to Give Advice, #SoOverMyEx, Bringing Sex Ed to the Streets, Darkness in the Park, Drag Queen BJ Guru, Homeless Folks, Cops, Douche-Bags, Advice on the Subway, Difficult Questions, Love Stories, Hurricane Sandy and the Economics of Love. 

DRAGON PENIS! Sexologist Megan Andelloux (TheCSPH.org) & comedian Will Smalley join Sandra on the first stop of her tour! TOPICS: Comedy, Hair Removal Techniques, Pubic Faux Hawk, Ball Shaving Tutorial, Threading, Neat Show & Tell, Antiques Road Show, A-to-M, The Worst Milkshake, Butt Plug Basics, Dirty Talk, Honey Bear and Baby Jesus.  

HOW TO DRIVE A VULVA! Author and sex educator Allison Moon (Tales of the Pack) reveals valuable wisdom from her new book project, "Girl Sex 101." Help kickstart it, today! TOPICS: Vaginal Fisting, Zen and the Art of Vulva Maintenance, Power Femmes, The Patriarchy, Flirting, Approaching Women, Pleasuring a Female, Laying Back and Taking it, Consenting Touch, Small Changes That Make Big Differences, Cultural Programming, Dyke Douches, Driving Metaphors, Topping, Hand Techniques, The Vulcan, Squirt Training and Sexual Superheroes! 

LIVING UP TO THE SEXPECTATION! Sandra processes a strange and wonderful group experience with her BFF Yvette and boyfriend Chris. TOPICS: Poop Feelings, Birthday Surprises, Dressed to Kill, Hot Girls, X-Rated Butt Jiggle, Circulation Issues, Blood Sugar Issues, Erection Issues, ALL THE ISSUES! 

NO MORE SHAG CARPETING! Relationship experts Holli & Michael (Hosts of Playboy Radio's "SWING") bust through stereotypes and myths about living the lifestyle. TOPICS: Soft vs Hard Swap, "Living Sexy," Clubbing, Single Guys, Approaching Another Couple, TTLC, Living Your Fantasy, Truth, Women Running the Show, Taking One For the Team, Reciprocity, Resentment, Common Pitfalls, Safe Sex, Nudists, Bisexuality, Hotel Takeovers, the Chocolate Room and where Stephen Hawking brings his posse.

PEGGING! Writer & educator Ruby Ryder shares how fun it can be to trade places! Sandra & Larkin soak up booty strap-on secrets galore! TOPICS: "Embracing Your Kink," Myths & Misconceptions, Reddit, Blowup Dolls, Designing a Workshop, Choosing Equipment, Pegging Porn, Hygiene, Height & Positions, Femininity, Fantasy, Keeping Secrets, Foreplay, Rimming, Packing & Playing, Erections, Stamina and TMIs Galore!

JUST THE 4-PRONGED TIP! Loveable sex educator Kate McCombs shares how hot safe sex can be. Sandra TMIs. Everyone wins. TOPICS: Eroticizing Safety, Dumb Mistakes in Sex Ed, Magic Moments with Condoms, Animal Penis, The Importance of Choice, Sagami Condoms, Female Condoms: Butterfly Nets of Fun and/or Butt Bags, the Glove Trick Revisited, Erotica, San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI), Kissing Class and Sandra’s new favorite slogan, “The knowledge is googleable. Your attitude is everything.”