Sex Nerd Sandra

MAGIC MIKE! Continuing last week's stripper theme, Sandra and webcomic artist Erika Moen interview male strippers from Portland's new male strip club, Stag. On stage at Portland's Dante's, hilarity ensues. 

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LAP DANCES! Recorded live at Portland's Dante's, it's a packed show. FIRST, enjoy stand-up comedy by Matt Kirshen. THEN comedian Kira Soltanovich joins for a rousing debate about whether strippers are like comedians. THEN, artist, cartoonist and guest co-host Erika Moen (OJST) and Sandra share their very different fascinations with strip clubs. FINALLY, lady strippers Hazel and The Baroness teach Erika and Sandra how to work in a strip club, give a lap dance and as a customer, how to behave. Listen in to Part 2 -MALE STRIPPERS!

 

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PIMP GIMP! Disability advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie sets Sandra straight about loving and having autonomy over your own body, no matter what the circumstances. TOPICS: Types of disability, Cross-disability, Spinal cord injury, Sex with paralysis, Being special-special, Robin's rare birth defect, Physical therapy sex ed, BDSM, Sex and dating, Person-frist language, Vocabulary: "able-bodied," "crip," and "gimp," Confidence, Feeling broken, Disabled-not-desperate, Self-driving cars, independence, Tindr, Disclosing, Cane, Masturbation, Dr. Marylou Naccarato, Sex toys, Loving yourself and our brains as a sexual organ!

Direct download: sns193_disability.mp3
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TRIPLE A! Sandra joins a group of asexuals (Aces) at Occidental College to find out about this invisible orientation, including being asexual, aromantic and/or agender. TOPICS: Allosexual, Sexually Repulsed, Amatonormativity, Romantic coding, Coming out to family, Dating, Being lonely, Friendship, Intimacy, Visibility, Ace pride float hopes, Robot assumptions, Cheek kissing, Trying to be sexual, Consent, Resources and so much more!

Checkout the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and The Thinking Asexual for more info and meetup groups near you. Watch asexuality videos at Aces Wild on YouTube!

Thank you to everyone who joined us for the recording!

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DILDO INCEPTION! Sandra marvels at Ox & Jesus of Oxballs, a predominantly gay hardcore toy company. TOPICS: Anal play, Vaginal cul-de-sac, Fringe fetishes, Skyscraper dildo, Straight market dongs, Nipple grippers, Art, 3D printing, Pushing balls forward, Cockring functionality, Bulges, Slings, The Hung, Longterm cocking wear, Penetrators, Goal-oriented size kings, Hollow plugs, Matterhorn lube slide plugs, Foreskin enthusiasm, Toys popular in Japan, 50 Shades of Grey tampon, Pigs & Otters, Kink lingo, Kitty play, Penis sheaths and Ball stretchers!

Direct download: sns191_mens_toys.mp3
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NO RANCH DRESSING! Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon and performance artist Marriah Moonkindred teach Sandra how to throw a party. TOPICS: Hot lesbian action, Activities, Bar area, Friendly door, Sex and social anxiety, Accidental sex parties, Welcome circle, Kinky Salon, Betty Dodson, Jack & Jill Offs, Other parties, In front of friends, Bonobos, Organic vs planned sex, Giving permission as a host, Beacon of Permission. THEN: Creating your container, BDSM, Swinging scene, Curating guests, Strap-ons, Intention setting, Pre-party orientation, Consent and boundaries, Party zones, Music, Sunday Fun-day, Jealousy, Men hosts, Cuddle Party, Deep throat, Invitations and the perfect snack table!

 

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KEEPING SECRETS! Sandra seeks therapist & author Dr. Tammy Nelson's wisdom for creating intentional monogamy, especially after infidelity. TOPICS: 2nd Marriages, Occupations that cheat, Fixing yourself, Transformative sex, Redefining relationships, Surviving affairs, Fixing marriage, Explicit vs impact agreements, Committing to forever, Unconditional love problems, Love as a choice, Desexualizing your relationship, Planning sex, Anticipatory eroticism, Arousal before desire, Types of affairs, Monogamy continuum, Betrayal, Integrity, Getting more of what we like and Opening your frontal cortex.

Direct download: sns189_monogamy.mp3
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SACRED SEX! Storyteller, author and speaker Charles Eisenstein (Sacred Economics) explores the leverage point of sexuality as a path to a better world. 

TOPICS: Artificial sex and money scarcity, Patriarchy, Jealousy, Changing the world, Believing it's possible, Heightened authenticity, Intimacy, Love as expansion of self to include another, The war on yourself, Nature, Revolutionary pleasure, Conquest of flesh, Reuniting with nature and body, Community, Joint creativity, Consuming fun, Primal gifts, Giving and receiving, Rumi, Profound intimacy, College sex, Soul's ego, Experts, Play, Sacred moments, Changing narrative, Demolishing your story, Relationships, Mistakes, Tamera eco-village and Separateness.

Direct download: sns188_world_peace.mp3
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SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis. 

TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions, Flirting style, British accents in America, Accidentally poly, Crying & waking = Cheching, Detailed list of partners, Therapeutic sex, Pussy Cat Dolls of Dicks, DWI, Burning Man and Exhibitionism!

Direct download: sns187_grant_stoddard.mp3
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CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgetting Sex, Anger, Drowning, Treatment, Sex Drive, Insensitive Doctors, Staying Sex-Positive, Connecting with Pleasure, Advocating for Yourself, Medical Mystery Solved, Genital Numbness, Erectile Dysfunction, Conscious Sex Decisions, Control, Foggy Headed, Giving Up, Mental Illness Taboo, Robin Williams and Superhero Sex Stores. 

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